Present lists

Firstly, just to make completely sure that this cannot be mistaken, I like and am grateful for all the presents that I received over Christmas and the thought that has gone into them.

Now for the “but”… I don’t know where to keep any of it. I am having a real downer on “things” and “clutter”, not that I am thinking of a single present as clutter but it all adds up to more stuff, and I am sure that more “stuff” is only going to keep me happy or entertained for a finite amount of time. It is all stuff that I will value and treasure and use, but…

I am not an easy person to buy presents for; there is just never anything that I really need or want and most of the time I have no idea what I would like for Christmas or Birthdays so if I don’t know what I’d like how is anyone else going to stand a chance of knowing.

This year I want to cut down and cut back to what is really important, the things that are going to get me closer to “the good life” and stuff is just not going to help me with that.

For example, me and Rhys were given a few cheese collections, which is an ideal present in most ways. We both like food, and cheese is one of my favourite foods, it is a gift that we/I will enjoy, but it did remind me that one of the things on my long list of “things I am looking at”  is cheese cultures and cheese wax. A gift of a set of, or one or either of these I would be over the moon with and it would help me on my quest for self-sufficiency. Another example; I’ve been given some of those bathroom-bubble-bath-shower-smellies sets, again something that I will enjoy but what I would have really liked is a book of recipes for making these things myself leaving me with the nice-smellie-things but without the empty plastic bottles when I have finished and the pretty box/basket that I will keep and use to sort more “stuff”.

Does that all sound amazingly ungrateful of me?

I don’t mean it to at all. I desperately want out of the “stuff” part of life, “stuff” is meaningless at the end of the day, but I do need “things” and enjoy “things” it is just getting the balance right. The solution that I have come up with is lists, I just hope no one is offended by them (I will try writing a nice letter and include that with it, everyone likes nice letters…)

5 responses to “Present lists

  1. I have a ‘wish list’ of things that I would really appreciate, but probably wouldn’t go an get myself and if anyone asks, I have some pre thought ideas.

    I am the same of you, I hate the clutter of things that either won’t get used or will hang around for ages before it becomes obvious they won’t be used. I try and regift some of these, obviously to the other side of the family or friends that don’t know each other, apart from that, I sell them or give them to the charity shop / car boot.

    Another good idea is the wish list on Amazon.. and then drop it into conversation that you’ve set one up with some books / items that you’d like if anyone is stuck for ideas??

  2. Oh I hear you on this. I’m exactly the same. I hate getting ‘stuff’; for the sake of it.

    I agree that lists are great; esp as apieceofwood suggested – have on there things you might not buy for yourself.

    Turn it around to ‘I would hate you to waste your money on something unappreciated, here are some things I would love to receive’ and leave it as a list with several options on there, saying you’d like them to choose just one thing so that it’s still a surprise as to what you get.

    I’ve put presents straight into the car after opening before now to take to a charity shop or pass to a friend :/

    You don’t sound ungrateful, you just have different values and don’t like meaningless consumerist crap.

  3. I always have a list of things I would like. My hubby keeps the list and the rest of the family ask him for it around birthdays or Christmas. That way, they still have the pleasure of choosing something for me, I don’t know what they’ve bought me so it’s still a surprise, and it’s something I definitely want.

  4. I completely understand what you mean. I struggle with this every year. I like to surround myself only with things that I truly cherish. People often think that because we have animals we want a bunch of animal statues and things and we don’t. I don’t like clutter and I don’t like dusting them. With people that I know very well I’ve started a themed “basket” exchange – cheeses, breakfast items, coffee and tea, etc. I put homemade stuff in my baskets because that’s what I enjoy and many of my friends don’t enjoy making things so they purchase favorite brands and different things to try. It works well though because it’s items you can eat – like you said about the cheeses. Christmas is hard because everyone has different values as was pointed out by Mrs Green. You by no means sound ungrateful though.

  5. I think consulting people to make sure presents are wanted, by lists or otherwise, is a good contribution towards reducing waste and care for the environment, besides, there is far more pleasure in giving a present that is just what someone wants!

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